senior parents

Are You a Caregiver?

My blog is about Reverse loans and providing the latest information about them but it is also a resource for people who are seeking information about other issues of aging and due to the fact that I have a very large resource of professionals that provide services to senors and their families, I like to share that once in awhile on this site.

Whether they need a really great Estate Planning Attorney,  help with a parent who has Alzheimer’s disease, in home care giving or any of the other issues that families and or the senior’s are faced with each day.  I have the resources and information at hand.

Unfortunately there are many adult children who are taking care of their parents needs each day and at the same time, they may be working full-time   ( and taking time off from their jobs because of emergencies with their parents), married and still have young children at home that need their attention.

They are referred to as “The Sandwich Generation”.

Soon the burden of taking care of their parents becomes far too difficult and stressful and quite frequently results in them developing a serious illness.   And it is not unusual for them to actually die before their parents passes, due to the enormous psychological stress associated with the demands of whatever the situation may be with their parents.

It’s important for them to take care of themselves and if at all possible, pay someone who is a licensed professional to relieve them of the burden.  It is a burden and their should be no guilt about letting someone else take care of your parents, as no one is qualified to do the job except for a professional who is trained to handle the seriousness of being a caregiver.

Please read the description below from Coast Caregiver Resource Center if you find yourself overwhelmed, angry, exhausted and feeling helpless and hopeless in trying to do the best that you can for your parents.

Enjoy your time with your parents and let go of any feelings of guilt about not being with them all of the time.   You have a life, too.

They are a wonderful resource for help when you need it the most.


Coast Caregiver Resource Center (CCRC) is one of eleven regions in the statewide non-profit California Caregiver Resource Centers that was created over thirty years ago to provide support services for family caregivers of persons with brain/cognitive impairment, such as all dementias, Parkinson’s and Huntington’s diseases, stroke, brain injury and many more. Services include assessments of the caregiving situation and needs, action plans, educational information, resource referrals, ongoing consultations, support groups, and emotional support.

CCRC includes three counties, Ventura, Santa Barbara, and San Luis Obispo, with family consultants in each county with masters’ degrees in related fields. Each region has a host employer, and CCRC’s is Cottage Health in Santa Barbara. CCRC is a program of Cottage Rehabilitation Hospital. Contact may be made through the main office in Santa Barbara at 888-488-6555 or

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Caregiving and Your Senior Parents

I never intended this site to be limited to the discussion of Reverse loans but also be a resource and platform that would allow others who specialize in the Senior market, to share valuable information, that otherwise may be difficult to locate.

And one difficulty  for the adult children is that of their aging parents and how best to help them through this life process, treating them with respect and at the same time, maintaining their own sanity.

I will be posting the following article that has been provided by Viki Kind, MA, discussing this very issue.   Because of the length of it, I will share it within three different posts over the course of the next seven days.

About the Author: Viki Kind, MA
Viki Kind is a clinical bioethicist, medical educator and hospice volunteer. She has lectured across the United States teaching healthcare professionals to have integrity, compassion and to improve end-of-life care through better communication.

Patients, families and healthcare professionals rely on Viki’s practical approach to dealing with challenging healthcare dilemmas. She has also been a caregiver for many years for four members of her family in the Los Angeles area.

Part I

This is an edited excerpt from “The Caregiver’s Path to Compassionate Decision Making – Making Choices for Those Who Can’t,” pp. 107-110, by Viki Kind, MA, (2010, Greenleaf Book Group)
Savvy Caregiving —Getting the Support You Need

I was the caregiver for a number of family members for many, many years. Sometimes I could manage just fine. But at other times I felt overwhelmed and unappreciated. Even when I knew what to do, I was still exhausted and worried all the time. All I wanted to do was to crawl into bed and just sleep.

Even though I wanted to take care of the seniors in my life, sometimes it all became too much. I admire professionals who take care of those who are disabled, sick or dying every day. But I also know it comes at a cost to the person doing the caregiving. So, let’s talk about the signs of caregiver stress and then discuss ways you can ask for help. (Help is out there, even if it doesn’t come from your family.)


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